About Me
Recovering from a decade long eating disorder was one of the hardest and also most rewarding processes I ever went through. Knowing firsthand how painful it is to live with an eating disorder and the challenges of recovering from one inspired me to become a recovery coach.
Recovery is especially hard in our culture where disordered behaviors have become so normalized. Working with a coach helped me stay centered and grounded throughout my recovery. It helped me do what I needed to do in order to recover even when it felt wrong and against the cultural messaging.
I’ve coached clients across a wide range of backgrounds and neurotypes, and I am skilled at adjusting coaching to meet each person’s unique needs, knowing that no two people are the same.
Outside of work, you can find me:
Finding ways to quote movies and TV shows in conversations
Practicing photography
Watching Formula 1
Reading
Listening to mgk
Spending time with my partner
Credentials:
MSW: Master of Social Work
Carolyn Costin Institute (CCI) Certified Eating Disorder Recovery Coach
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I believe we must seek to understand each person’s unique experience with an eating disorder—asking questions and listening rather than making assumptions. Coaching is a partnership, and you hold valuable expertise on yourself. You know yourself and your life much better than I do, so I believe your input is important in our work together.
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I validate the ways an eating disorder makes sense and has been a survival strategy—an attempt at a solution by a part of us to deal with our lived experience, painful learnings, dysregulation, trauma, and oppression. Healing asks us to honor our eating disorder’s attempts to help us survive while also acknowledging the harm it has caused in our life. I believe we must compassionately hold space for both of these truths without judgement.
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Each person faces a unique combination of factors contributing to their eating disorder and challenges in their life influenced by the environment we exist within. It’s vital to understand the interconnection between our cultural belief systems, anti-fatness, and eating disorders/disordered eating. I believe liberation for all will allow for more healing collectively and individually.
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Not everyone is in a place where recovery is their priority, and not everyone wants to recover. I believe recovery should not be moralized; someone is always worthy of dignity and an increased quality of life regardless. I always hold hope for the possibility of full recovery and very much believe it’s possible.
My Coaching Philosophy
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Harm reduction is important minimize the negative consequences of disordered eating behaviors. Harm reduction is ethical care. I see harm reduction as a compassionate approach aimed to reduce suffering and increase someone’s quality of life no matter where they are in their process.
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I believe your body is wise and trustworthy. And only our bodies can decide what they need to weigh in order to be well. It’s harmful when we try to force our body to a lower weight than it’s meant to be at. Research shows that being in an energy deficit is a major contributing factor to developing and sustaining an eating disorder. It’s someone’s state, not weight that matters; their mental, emotional, and physical state. A number of the scale isn’t going to tell us if someone is healed.
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Even if everything appears fine from the outside, what truly matters is your internal experience—how you are experiencing food, exercise, your body, and being with yourself. Your struggles are valid even if they are not visible. I believe it’s crucial to have supports who prompt us to explore our internal experience rather than simply define us by external markers and assumptions.
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We are socialized and living within cultural systems that pathologize and condemn bodies, hunger, food, aging, rest, pleasure, and our needs as humans. Proving our worth through self-denial, our appearance, how much we exercise, our health status, and our productivity levels is normalized in our society. Sadly these messages too often show up in recovery spaces as well. Full freedom from an ED will ask us to let go of all rules, compulsions, and conditions around eating, movement, and weight—even the ones that are normalized in our culture. If we wanted seconds but we didn’t have it because our meal plan didn’t require it—that is still restriction. If we are approved by our team to exercise, but are doing it from a place of fear and would feel anxious if we didn’t—that isn’t serving us. I believe we must root out any harmful mental and physical restriction and decisions made from a place of self-control rather than self-care if we want to heal. To eat and enjoy food without guilt in a culture that tells us not to is an act of courageous reclamation!
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